Clover House Therapy - The Complementary Therapy Centre for Children

Most children are dearly loved – but many children don’t know it or feel it.

At Clover House we help children to feel loved by listening to children and giving time to children, and by encouraging parents to do similar and do massage, provide healthy food, and to help understand children’s problems.

STARTING WITH SELF

By being kind to our self we learn to be loving to others. Parents are the biggest role model for children. So therefore we encourage Parents to love themselves.
– By looking after themselves physically, to get plenty of sleep, regular exercise, eat a healthy diet, and to have adult time to relax, enjoy, meet friends, and do things that are nurturing and positive. To take care of their emotional life - to get support from partner, family and friends. If need be find a support group or professional help. Our therapists will offer support and help to parents when necessary.

MORE WAYS TO HELP A CHILD FEEL LOVED:

By a parent showing it, and saying it every day.
A good maximum is to think “What would love do now” especially when a child tests a parents patience or does something wrong – try a hug – it works magic.

To help a child’s self esteem, to praise them often, and focus on the positives, to communicate, to refrain from negativity and criticism, shouting or telling. To teach and show.

To listen to a child, to do a massage, to read a bedtime story, to help with their interests and hobbies and homework, to plan days out for the family.

It takes time and effort to plan discipline and follow it through, to keep boundaries and yet to extend them as children grow. Attention to get the balance right -firm love is better than tough love or soft love.

The time and quality of time that parents devote to children indicates the degree to which they are valued. When children feel loved and valued this is the basic ingredient to mental wellbeing, and good mental health. It is only gained in childhood, and difficult to acquire later, and when children feel valued it is almost impossible for the ups and downs of life to destroy the spirit.